Self-trust creates trust-in-others

Self-trust will change the way one looks at others

There is one important aspect of self-trust. When we can trust ourselves unconditionally, we can also trust others unconditionally. Conversely, if we can only trust ourselves conditionally, we can only trust others conditionally.

Trust in others is different from dependence on others

Earlier, I mentioned that when we have self-trust, we can also trust in others. Some people may say that even if we don’t have self-trust, we can still have trust in others. For example, even if we don’t have self-trust, we can still have unconditional trust in our parents, teachers, or people we respect.

Trust in others is not the same as affirming all the behavior of others

Also, there is a difference between trust in others and affirming all of their behavior. Trust in others means respecting and acknowledging their existence, personality, and subjective truth, and it does not mean approving everything they say and do. There may be times when we dare to say “No” to someone’s words or actions in order for that person to connect to their own subjective truth.

Trust allows us to face up to our challenges

The biggest problem with not being able to “trust” yourself or others, or in other words, only being able to have conditional beliefs, is that it leads to overprotection (i.e., excessive defensive reactions).

Trust allows us to positively challenge each other with subjective truths

As mentioned earlier, overprotection arises when we can only believe in ourselves and others on a “conditional” basis.

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Bunshiro OCHIAI

Bunshiro OCHIAI

Founder and CEO of a training company, Alue | MS in Particle Physics. | BCG | Questing “What is the paradigm for integrating contradictions in management?”